Friday, 13 December 2013

A Rationalist...

...who is also a Humanist.

Asia Plateau, Panchgani, the International training and reconciliation center of Initiatives of Change in India offers opportunities of coming across some amazing people at its various programs. This week we had a 5 day training program on Ethics in Governance and we came cross this rationalist person. Here is his inspiring story in his own word:



"Well, I would like to tell something about my family. I Dilip Kalokhe, an Assistant Engineer from MCGM am a common middleclass person. My parents were teacher by profession as such my childhood was with strict discipline. My father was having high moral values and always tried to transform them to new generation. He was rationalist so naturally I became rationalist too. I always believed that charity always begins from home. When I decided to marry 25 years back, I had certain thinking in my mind about my spouse. Prima facie, this was looking unnatural or crazy but I decided to stick to that. These conditions were,
  1. My bride should also be rationalist as there would not be any conflict for our day to day matters.
  2. She should not be fond of gold or golden ornaments as I was against the gold. I felt buying or storing gold is like blocking national wealth.
  3. She should be ready to perform marriage ceremony in very simple way before the registrar of marriage without any religious activities. There were two reasons for that as I was rationalist so didn’t believe ‘7 fere’ and was of the thinking that spending thousands of rupees on ceremony is sheer waste.
To my surprise, I got my dream girl voluntarily accepting all my conditions and we were happily married. My wife always supported me for my social activities like helping needy people, environment related issues, refraining from superstition etc. A noteworthy example I would like to share. When she was carrying first time in 1990, there was a solar eclipse during her pregnancy. Neighboring ladies asked her to avoid to come out from home and not to do any work at home as it was a ritual in Maharashtrian people that if pregnant lady sees eclipse or even does some house work that day, the baby to be borne will be defective or physically handicapped. I never believed such superstitions and wanted to prove that wrong. I took meeting of all ladies and told them that all such superstitions are baseless and I am going to prove them wrong. I asked my wife to see the eclipse and even do all possible work at home. Without any hesitation, she followed me. Our neighbors were very scary and criticized my wife for listening such crazy things. I can proudly say that my wife delivered a son with normal delivery without any problem to new borne. My son is now 23 year old and carrying forward my thinking.
My wife does whatever possible towards the society. Every year she donates a bottle of blood to local blood bank on her birthday. She is always admired for her helpful nature from all whom she knows.

To give something to society even after death, my wife & I have decided to donate our full bodies after our death. The useful organs should be replanted to needy ones and the rest of the body shall be made available for dissection for medical college student. Again as an atheist or rationalist, I don’t believe ‘Mukti’, ‘Heaven’, ‘Rebirth’ etc. so cremation of our dead bodies will just add to loss of another 300kgs of wood."

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